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How to Write a Eulogy

Writing for a loved one who has passed away is probably one of the hardest things you will ever do. Its purpose it to commemorate the life of a loved one who has passed and it is typically presented at a funeral or memorial service by a person who was close to the deceased. They typically last about 5 to 10 minutes and can be a formal speech or simple reminiscences about the life of the deceased. Below we list helpful steps for those that may need help through what can be a very difficult time.

First, take some time to sit and recall your own memories. You may include things such as where you met, things you did together and any special memories you hold involving that person. You can also include any favorite songs, poems, or scripture that the deceased may have liked or that remind you of the deceased.

Gather information from family and friends about the deceased. This includes things such as their age, birthday, marriage, children, education, career, hobbies, and special accomplishments. This may include memories that family and friends have about the deceased as well. It could also include places the deceased has lived, trips the deceased took, and a condensed life history of the deceased. Sometimes individuals will also ask if there are others who would like to share a special memory about the deceased during the service. The funeral services can be very special as well if you can think of a phrase or a typical behavior that can capture the essence of your loved one who has passed.

It also helps to know how the deceased viewed death and funerals. Some individuals view a funeral as a time of mourning only while others view funerals as a time to celebrate the life of the deceased. This can set the tone for the service. If you don’t know this information, don’t worry. If you are responsible for delivery of the eulogy chances are that you were selected for a reason and you should follow your instincts. It is also important and helpful to keep your audience in mind.

Organize, write, and review. It is helpful to organize your thoughts whether they are written on a notepad, note cards, or your computer. Once you have an idea of the flow and organization then you can write your tribute down as you would deliver it. Remember it does not have to be perfect and what matters most is that you write from your heart. Also, the first draft will most certainly not be your last and you can decide what to keep and what you may want to remove. It is also helpful to ask someone you trust for their input and feedback.

Revise, rehearse, and finalize. Once you have made your revisions practice reading the eulogy so that you are familiar and comfortable with it. It is not necessary to memorize it and once you have finalized it, you may want to have a written copy or note cards to have as a reference during your delivery. Remember, it’s perfectly okay to stop and take a breath, shed a tear, and take a moment to yourself during your delivery. While you have been given an important and honorable role, you are also there to grieve for the loss of your loved one.

Please contact us at 713-208-2025 for a complimentary phone consultation and let’s find the right words to create a fitting tribute to your loved one.

Please allow Houston Minister Services to walk you through this difficult time in your life. You may also view other articles in our Minister Services blog for more information.

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