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Funeral Poems

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Funeral poems are often used during memorial services and funerals as a way to ease the pain caused by mourning the loss of a loved one who has passed. Funeral poems are used to depict the feelings of those left behind in a way that can be consoling and comforting during times of heartache and sorrow. Poetry is often used due to its ability to describe feelings and accurately capture heartbreak that could not otherwise be described.

Funeral poems may be used as part of the eulogy, may be printed on funeral programs, or may be used on prayer cards or other keepsake memorobilia to memorialize the deceased. Often times, guests will find poems stated on memorial gifts such as artwork, frames, or plaques and they provide these to the family and friends of the deceased. These poems are of significant help to those who have been left behind and who seek comfort in words.

When making funeral arrangements, finding a poem that is fitting is often a major part of the process. Sometimes family or friends of the deceased will decide to write a poem that more accurately depicts their feelings or the life of the person that has passed on. This can be difficult to do at such an emotional time, so many look to numerous resources available online. You can most certainly find something that is fitting online or in poetry books at your local library.

Additionally, many funeral readings and funeral poems can be found in the form of music. Perhaps a song or lyrics have special meaning to the deceased. Perhaps a special song or lyrics remind you or the family of the deceased and how they chose to live their life, or how they passed on from this life. Sometimes funeral music is actually played, and other times, the lyrics are simply read by someone conducting the eulogy or by another family member or friend of the deceased. There really is no right or wrong way to do this, just as long as you are sensitive to your audience and true to your feelings.

If you find yourself in need of a minister to walk you through this difficult time in your life please contact us at 713-208-2025 for a complimentary phone consultation. Together we can find the right words and funeral services to create a fitting tribute to your loved one.

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Funeral Music

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There are so many things to think about when making funeral arrangements for a loved one. The funeral music that is chosen is just one of many items when funeral planning and is often the hardest, other than writing a eulogy. Death is a sensitive time for all involved and finding music that is not only fitting, but that is respectful and a good tribute to the deceased can be difficult.

It may make sense to first understand why people will include funeral music at all. Why is it necessary? Many feel that a specific song can remind them of a person who has died and can also commemorate their memory in a way that is pleasant.  Music in general can evoke a memory or a feeling in a way that words alone simply cannot. The lyrics of a song can also actually explain how we are dealing with a death or how we relate to the deceased. Perhaps the funeral music depicts the person in a way that words alone could not. Additionally, music has the ability to comfort and soothe people when they are dealing with a wide range of emotions. Emotions such as those experienced when dealing with death.

If you are choosing the funeral music or funeral readings for a memorial service or perhaps you are writing a eulogy, just remember that there are no rules for the type of music that is best suited for funerals.  The goal is to generate pleasant memories of the deceased and they should have meaning. The music may have a personal meaning to you, it may be the deceased’s favorite song, or songs that you shared in some way with the deceased. It could just be a song that reminds you of them and that makes you feel closer to the deceased when you hear it.

Most of the time, when planning the funeral music, music is played in the background while friends and family of the deceased are gathering for the service. This can include classical music or hymns among other types of music. It often will represent the taste of the person who has just passed. 

If you find yourself in need of a minister to walk you through this difficult time in your life please contact us at 713-208-2025 for a complimentary phone consultation. Together we can find the right words and funeral services to create a fitting tribute to your loved one.

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Funeral Costs

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If you are in the position of planning a funeral or memorial service for a loved one you should be aware that the funeral costs don’t have to be significant. In fact, many families are able to spend under $2,500 for a perfectly memorable and nice service to honor their loved one who has passed. In the past, funerals have traditionally been an expensive endeavor however with the current economic situation many families are simply unable to spend a lot of money. It is important to recognize that while it is okay to spend a significant amount of money on a funeral for your loved one, it is not a requirement and does not indicate the amount of love you hold in your heart for your loved one who has passed.

The funeral home that you chose can provide you with options for a less expensive service, but most of the time you have to ask. In general the funeral costs include a basic service fee, optional services fees, and cash disbursements. The basic services funeral costs includes items such as the use of the funeral home, burial arrangement coordination, securing permits, as well as the services of a funeral director. Optional service funeral costs typically include items such as embalming, times for a funeral wake, transporting the deceased’s body, the use of a hearse, the actual burial container or casket, interment, and cremation. Cash disbursements include items that the funeral home purchases on your behalf and may include items such as flowers, pallbearers, obituary notices, clergy services, and musicians with.

It is important to also know that in the United States, funeral service providers must supply you with a statement of all of the funeral costs for those goods and services that you choose to utilize. If the funeral director does not have an exact price to provide to you, then he or she must provide a written good faith estimate. If the funeral home that you choose does not provide this information to you upfront, then you should seriously consider choosing another one. If you are making funeral arrangements then most likely it is not an easy time for you and the last thing you need at a time like this is any complications.

We are here to assist you in making a memorable tribute in a way that reflects the beliefs, the life and the wishes of your dearly departed. Working together, we customize the celebration of your loved one’s life.

If you find yourself in need of a minister to walk you through this difficult time in your life please call Houston Minister Services today at 713-208-2025.

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Funeral Customs

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Funeral customs vary among different countries and cultures, yet the focus remains unchanged; honoring the deceased and sharing memories with family and friends. In the United States the process frequently contains three parts; the visitation, the funeral service, and burial.

Visitation includes a gathering of family and friends and may include viewing of the body. Alternatively, photos are placed within the room without a viewing. The actual funeral services are either in family home, or church, where spiritual and personal stories are shared. The burial itself is held graveside with friends and family, or by personal request of the family only. Our friends in Europe and Canada hold very similar ceremonies.

Depending upon individual cultural backgrounds and beliefs there are differing memorial services. Someone from New Orleans may be honored with a Jazz Funeral, complete with music and dancing in celebration of the life of the departed. Several cultures believe a funeral wake shows great respect of the deceased with a party-like celebration of their life.

Funeral planning varies widely depending upon personal funeral customs passed down throughout the year. Personalized funerals are gaining popularity and there is less formality than in previous years. The importance of any funeral is the opportunity to gather together to honor the deceased and support one another in the passing of a friend. Less attention is paid to funeral etiquette with an increasing list of new funeral traditions added each year.

Whether you choose a ceremony steeped in traditional beliefs, or an informal gathering, all provide a sense of closure as we acknowledge the loss of someone dear to us. We are here to assist you in making a memorable tribute in a way that reflects the beliefs, the life and the wishes of your dearly departed. Working together, we customize the celebration of your loved one’s life.

If you find yourself in need of a minister to walk you through this difficult time in your life please call Houston Minister Services today at 713-208-2025.

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Funeral Insurance

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More and more of our older population are making their own funeral arrangements. They do this in order to relieve their family members of some or the entire financial burden that could fall on their shoulders and many want to ensure that their funeral goes according to their wishes. It is for these reasons that funeral insurance has become a necessary part of funeral planning.

Another reason that many are choosing to go this route is due to rising funeral costs. The average costs for today’s funeral is anywhere from $4,000 to $6,000 not including an underground burial. This fee of course can vary depending upon where the burial will take place. Not to mention some deceased may want to be buried in a family plot or taken to another state for burial. Not only has the cost risen but interest in planning funeral services has increased as well. Many would like to participate with planning the funeral as well as deciding which products and services will be included. Paying for these things in advance lock in the details, cost and ensure that wishes are met.

Those looking to plan their own memorial service and pay for funeral insurance must ensure that they do not fall prey to insurance scams or ridiculously high premiums. There are some people in this industry that look to take advantage of the elderly. To prevent this from happening, our elders should have another family member participate in this process if they think it is necessary. Basically, just be sure that you do your due diligence.

Previously, many funerals were funded through the use of trusts however there are tax liabilities involved with that method which is why many choose to go this route instead. Many people find it is easier and makes more sense to add a small amount of coverage to their current life insurance policy specifically designed to cover costs for their funeral.

If you find yourself in need of a minister please contact us at 713-208-2025 for a complimentary phone consultation. Together we can find the right words to create a fitting tribute to your loved one.

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Funeral Readings

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Funeral Readings Information

Many individuals choose to read poems or other funeral readings at a memorial service because they can have a positive affect on the service. Readings that express overwhelming feelings and that apply to the deceased can also be very uplifting and can help with bereavement. If can be very difficult to find a fitting reading when you are grieving for the loss of a loved one so many will turn to books, the bible, poems, or songs, or other sources.

There are so many to choose from and readings can also be quotes from popular literary sources, quotes from poems, or even quotes from songs. Some people may choose to come up with their own custom reading just as someone would write a eulogy. This is perhaps the most thoughtful and creative part of making funeral arrangements, but it is also one of the most important parts of planning funerals.

Many feel that funeral readings help the family and relative of the deceased to cope with the death of their loved one. They also see these readings as a sort of emotional relief as they may receive a different perspective of the sad day. The readings should provide words of comfort that are true to the character of the deceased.

There are numerous readings that are written by famous authors and poets, song writers and there are many that were written by anonymous people. Many readings are quotes or passages from the bible or poems written by loved ones. When selecting a reading as part of the funeral services it is important to ensure that you choose something that will not be too overwhelming or upsetting to those attending. It is a time to use extra caution and sensitivity. The funeral readings are perhaps one of the most important parts when funeral planning.

Below is a reading that was written anonymously.

Prayer of Faith
We trust that beyond absence there is a presence.
That beyond the pain there can be healing.
That beyond the brokenness there can be wholeness.
That beyond the anger there may be peace.
That beyond the hurting there may be forgiveness.
That beyond the silence there may be the word.
That beyond the word there may be understanding.
That through understanding there is love.
Author Unknown

If you find yourself in need of a minister to walk you through this difficult time in your life please contact us at 713-208-2025 for a complimentary phone consultation. Together we can find the right words to create a fitting tribute to your loved one.

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Funeral Etiquette

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Funeral Etiquette for Family and Friends of the Deceased

Funerals and memorial services serve as an opportunity to commemorate the life of a loved one who has past away and is a way for friends and family to say goodbye. The service is a necessary part of the grieving process because it helps family and friends to come to terms with the fact that their loved one has passed away.

There are some general guidelines for funeral etiquette for guests as well as for those who are making the funeral arrangements.

Expressing Sympathy: When expressing sympathy most find it best to keep is short and simple. Many simply say they are sorry for the loss which is perfectly fine to say. Don’t feel as if you have to say a lot. More times than not, most people who have just lost someone are at a loss for words. Sometimes you are needed to simply listen to what family and friends of the deceased have to say and you don’t need to say much at all.

Attire: The standard in funeral etiquette has been to wear dark colors, or otherwise clothing that will not stand out. You should try to keep your clothing simple but not too casual. Most opt to wear black as this is most always appropriate.

Offer Assistance: If you are able, it is always appreciated if you offer assistance to help with child care, picking up out-of-town relatives, food gifts, or other things. When it is a sudden death your gesture may be especially helpful.

Funeral Etiquette for the Bereaved

Thank You Notes: For family members who have taken care of funeral planning and all of the arrangements, it is common funeral etiquette to send a thank you card to those friends who sent a gift, flowers, food, or a card to the family. Attendants do not need to receive a thank you note, but those friends who may have helped with transportation or any arrangements should receive a thank you note as well. Typically thank you cards are sent within two weeks of the funeral services.

Clergy: It recommended that a personal note is sent to thank your clergy person. If you send an offering or honorarium, then send it separately from the thank you note in another envelope.

If you find yourself in need of a minister to walk you through this difficult time in your life please call Houston Minister Services today at 713-208-2025.

Please also continue to view other articles in our Minster Services blog for more information such as how to write a eulogy.

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Funeral Wake

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You will often see the announcement of a funeral wake for someone who has passed away in their obituary.  It is very common for a wake to be held two days prior to the funeral services in order to provide loves ones with a chance to say goodbye and to gather together for support. The wake will either be open casket where loved ones can actually touch and speak directly to the deceased, or it is closed casket.

The wake is seen as a time for loved ones to gain a sense of closure and it can either be a private or a public ceremony. This information along with other information regarding the funeral arrangements is typically provided in the obituary as well. It helps to set the expectations required of the deceased’s family and it keeps people from contacting the funeral home to find out the details.

Many are using the wake as a time to celebrate the life of a loved one as they would during a memorial service. More and more funerals are customized these days in a way that is more reflective of the deceased’s life and wishes. Regardless of the type of service that is conducted for the funeral wake, attendants are present to offer support and to honor the deceased.

Guests will typically sign a registry book as they arrive which includes their names and address. This is for the family members who may wish to send a thank you note. People will also send flower arrangements as well to the wake in addition to the actual funeral. The immediate family of the deceased will spend the majority of their time by the casket whether it is open or closed. The final viewing of the body is seen as a sign of respect, although it is not mandatory to view the body. Many feel however that it is expected if you attend the funeral wake.

If you have small children with you, keep in mind that some may be frightened while others may not. Talk with them beforehand to get a feel for how they may react, but don’t assume that they shouldn’t participate in the viewing. Depending upon their age, this may be an important time for closure for the children as well.

If you find yourself in need of a minister please contact us at 713-208-2025 for a complimentary phone consultation. Together we can find the right words to create a fitting tribute to your loved one.

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Funeral Planning

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Funeral Planning Help

When planning a funeral the purpose is to give meaning to that person’s life and it is an opportunity for friends and family to gather and remember the deceased. Funeral planning is an extremely emotional process especially if death comes unexpectedly. There are financial matters and legal matters to consider that can be hard to cope with while you are coping emotionally. Many individuals prefer to plan their own funeral if they are facing illness or are elderly.

Below we provide a list of funeral arrangements that must be addressed when planning a funeral or memorial service.

Step 1: If at all possible, plan ahead. This of course can only be done for those funerals that are expected due to illness or if you are planning your own funeral services. It is harder to make important decisions when you are also grieving the loss of a loved one. You can also save money and plan your own funeral to help relieve the burden that can be imposed on those relatives and friends left behind.

Step 2: Cover the Cost. If you are planning your own funeral in advance, you can set up a POD account. This stands for payable-on-death and you assign a beneficiary to handle the funeral planning and financial arrangements. Again, this is an option for the elderly or for those faced with illness and it is way to relieve financial burden on family members.

Step 3: Document your Wishes. Many people opt to document their wishes and file it at home so that it is easily accessible to a loved with whom they expect to carry out their wishes. This ensures that your wishes are carried out and helps family to feel good about the decisions made with regards to your service. Don’t keep it locked away or in a safe deposit box. This can make it difficult to access by family members and can be timely.

Step 4: Decide on a Funeral Director. You can contact various funeral directors in your area to compare services and prices when funeral planning. You should also discuss any cultural or religious preferences that should be a part of the service. They typically direct you to a minister that can perform the funeral or memorial service as well, if you haven’t already selected one.

Step 5: Flowers or Donations in Lieu. Decide whether or not donations should be made to a charity in lieu of flowers. This request can either be by word of mouth or can be requested in the obituary. Ensure that instructions are included on where to send the donations when funeral planning.

Step 6: Remains of the Deceased. The decision of what should be done with the deceased’s remains must be addressed. There are three main options including burial, entombment, and cremation.

Step 7: Tailor the service. This last step is very important when funeral planning and will set the overall tone for the memorial service. The funeral should be tailored so that it is fitting for the person who is deceased. Some prefer a non-conventional service that celebrates the life of the deceased, while others may prefer a more traditional funeral that is more conservative and focuses more on saying goodbye. There is no right or wrong answer when planning this part of the service.

If you find yourself in need of a minister to walk you through this difficult time in your life please call Minister Services today at 713-208-2025; Let us walk you through this difficult time in your life. Please also continue to view other articles in our Minster Services blog for more information such as how to write a eulogy.

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Funeral Arrangements

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Funeral Arrangements Information

Making funeral arrangements is a difficult process that involves financial decisions made during times of emotional stress. It can be hard to know where to start and where to gather the information that you need. In today’s article we provide guidance for those in need in hopes to relieve some of the stress and overwhelming feelings associated with planning a funeral or memorial service.

If someone that you know has passed on and you are the first to know, you should first dial 911 and report that someone has passed away. The police will come and will ask questions concerning the circumstances of the death. The body of the deceased will then be transferred to a funeral home or a medical examiner depending upon the circumstances. In either event, a physician is needed to determine the cause of death and will also need to sign a death certificate.

The next step is to begin contacting close relatives. Relatives will at times want to say their goodbyes to the deceased in their home and they may need to be involved in planning the funeral services and the funeral arrangements. Of course you should exercise great care and sensitivity when making these phone calls since you may not know what kind of reaction you may receive.

If you are the person responsible for making the funeral arrangements yourself you will need to be sure to get copies of the death certificate. This is needed in order to freeze bank accounts and credit cards of the deceased as well as perform other needed legal arrangements.

Funerals take a lot of careful planning and quick decisions and the family will need to know what do to with the remains of the deceased. This will need to be decided once the body of the deceased goes to the funeral home. The deceased may have left his or her wishes as to what they would like as it pertains to burial or cremation.

Additional details that may need to be addressed include the type of memorial service that you will have for the deceased as well as whether or not there will be a wake the day before the actual funeral services take place. Throughout all of the planning you may find that you are also responsible for delivery of the eulogy. This is a very important part of the service and requires some quiet time on your part to reflect on the life of the deceased.

If you find yourself in need of a minister to walk you through this difficult time in your life please contact us at 713-208-2025 for a complimentary phone consultation. Together we can find the right words to create a fitting tribute to your loved one.

Please allow Minister Services to walk you through this difficult time in your life. You may also view other articles in our Minister Services blog for more helpful information.

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